Note: I do not want to come across as a relationship expert. I am not. Nor am I saying that my girlfriend and I do not have our ups and downs. We do. Every relationship has them.
This is simply a video where I want to share the tools and systems that have significantly improved the foundation of our relationship. Hopefully, this will introduce you to some new concepts for your relationship—or your future one.
TIMESTAMPS:
Intro 00:00 - 02:12
Tools to Improve Your Relationship 02:12 - 02:44
{THE AND} 02:44 - 05:56
A card game with 199 questions per deck that allows people to easily experience more meaningful connections anywhere you may be. I have recommended this to almost every couple I know—and even singles. There are several different editions of this game.
Depending on your status at the moment, I recommend one of the following: Friends Edition, Relationships Edition, Long-Term Relationships Edition, and Strangers Edition.
http://theskindeep.refr.cc/jellisvaes
Oh, they also have an app! So, if you’d rather play it on your phone, check it out here:
- Apple store: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/the-and-relationship-card-game/id1523425672
- Google Play: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.skindeep&hl=en&gl=US
Also, if you’d like to have even more meaningful conversations, check out “The 36 Questions That Lead to Love” → https://www.nytimes.com/2015/01/09/style/no-37-big-wedding-or-small.html
Spicy Board Game 05:56 - 07:09
To make sex more fun and learn more about each other, check out Tease & Please.
Half-Year Review 07:09 - 08:35
We do this on Valentine’s Day. We set a date night, get some cocktails, and go through the following three questions:
- What did we do well?
- What can we do better or differently?
- What are our current worries?
Find a Shared Hobby 08:35 - 10:58
Climbing is awesome. If you’ve never tried it, give it a go. It is a whole lot of fun.
Some other hobby suggestions to do together are: learning the salsa or any new dance, doing acro yoga, making music, or playing any team sport.
Systems to Make Your Relationship Run More Smoothly 10:58 - 11:12
Have a Shared Calendar 11:12 - 12:30
Don’t use this to constantly spy on each other. If that might be a trap you can fall into, you should probably skip this.
How to sync calendars:
- https://support.google.com/calendar/answer/37082?hl=en
- https://www.lifewire.com/how-to-set-up-google-calendar-ical-sync-1172184
Share a Google Photos Album 12:30 - 13:05
We use a shared Google Photos album for all our photos as a couple—from trips to parties, activities, etc.
It’s easy to set up and makes life as a couple much easier as you have one place for all your photos together.
Splitwise 13:05 - 14:15
An incredible tool to make all your payments as a couple so much easier.
https://secure.splitwise.com/
Shared Notion Page (The Relationship Board) 14:15 - 20:20
This is a shared Notion page we created that gives an overview of everything about us as a couple. Currently, we have the following categories:
- To-Do List (any shopping or house cleaning or other chores that need doing)
- Apartment (general info about our apartment, like insurance, decorating, contract, etc.)
- Trips (any trips we want to go on, that we are currently planning, or have done)
- Events (any events like house parties or other activities we want to do)
- To explore (any products we’d like to try out, for example, a puzzle, a fun-looking board game, etc.)
- Review (our half-year review)
Outro + Bonus 20:20 - 24:22
Both individuals need to realize that relationships require active effort and ongoing maintenance.
Also, it is essential to improve flexibility in your relationship. Or, if you are still single, look for someone who is flexible. look for someone who is not set in their ways but rather open to new ideas.
Here are some articles on how to cultivate this trait:
- https://www.verywellmind.com/be-more-open-minded-4690673
- https://www.wikihow.com/Be-Open-Minded
- https://hbr.org/2018/11/a-new-way-to-become-more-open-minded
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